Christmas Eve 2011 and I've finally accepted that he's an abusive partner. Not extremely, but his substance and alcohol abuse brings it out.

If we are arguing he frequently aims to hurt me by saying untrue and insulting things. He gets angry that his substance abuse upsets me and vilifies me for not wanting to frequently drink. He's a cunt and he will not change no matter how ideal he might be sober.

I will not be used.